As a mama, you need to be everything to everyone. But sometimes you just have to be enough for yourself. Being a member of the mom tribe now for 8 years, I encourage all to have no shame in a good cry. Since becoming a mom I have misplaced my big girl pants. I knew that pregnancy had the potential to wreak havoc on my body, but never did I prepare for the “Momnesia” that would suddenly take over my brain, but how come no one mentioned the “Momnesia” that would take over the brain and all my emotions!
As a mom, I would encourage you all to have a good cry. Like a real, good, solid cry? I mean one of those good cries that let the flood gates open after the last stick was stacked on your back. Like in Carrie Underwood’s song Cry Pretty, “you can’t turn off the flood when the dam breaks.” It’s an ugly cry. Don’t ever feel the need to apologize for crying either. Just keep calm and snot on! It’s ok to let it out, the tears and emotions set free, and it’s ok to give yourself some grace too. Also, when you run into another mama, it’s ok to give her some grace too. You never know what she is hiding underneath that smile.
REMEMBER WE’RE IN THIS TOGETHER
You weren’t crying from one set issue. You had just had enough of the day, a hard week, month, season. Maybe you even hid your tears from those you love. You silently sobbed in secret, so you didn’t cause a stir. Been there! Even when you don’t feel 100% afterward, I’m convinced this is healthy. You must let the pressure out as a reset. Therefore, I’ve researched the benefits. Those flood gates can hit at the most obscure and unexpected time. Sometimes it comes from happiness, frustration, and sometimes no reason at all. It can suddenly happen and the next minute you realize you are a blubbering bawling mess. Kind of like the first time I spilled my breastmilk…don’t ever let anyone tell you that you can’t cry over spilled me! Cleaning up liquid gold will immediately turn you into a bawling, blubbering mess!
“…Tears shed by stress help the body remove chemicals that raise cortisol, the stress hormone, among others which reduce pain. Other studies suggest that crying causes the production of endorphins, our body’s natural pain killer, and “positive” hormones.” According to MedicalDaily.com
See?! Let it out, girl. Have yourself a good cry and let it all out. No need to be ashamed, those are hard-earned waterworks you are creating. Get it all out, every drop. Make peace with it.
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK
Leave that baggage back on the history shelf and move on. Don’t let it keep dragging your life down. Here are some ways to get there:
- Wondering why the heck you need to dissect it? Well, do you want to relive all the anguish again?
- Talk to those who have had a hand in your emotional build-up. See what changes can be made.
- Look critically at yourself. What could you delegate off your plate? Where could you ask for help? Where could you cut something altogether that isn’t filling up your cup with happiness?
It’s okay to say NO to something. Everything you say “YES” to, is a “NO” to yourself or your loved ones. Protect your yeses.
Once you have some action items to work on. Put it on the history shelf where it belongs, move on.
DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
By making peace with the frustrations, you can cut ties and move on with your life. Skip the suffering of living it out repeatedly like a broken record you’d rather not be listening to. You can make that change, you have to want to. Start by getting that cry out. Deal with it with a look into your daily actions. Then toss it out and get back to living your best life.
Lady, you’re amazing. You’re doing a great job!
If no one tells you that today, let me be the one to tell you. Keeping rocking the world you’ve created!
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